The Perfect Guy
Now, based on the title, you all had to know this is clickbait. Obviously, there is no such thing as the “perfect” guy. As children, we all dream of our prince charming coming and sweeping us off our feet, but unfortunately, as hopeless romantics, that never seems to happen. I always seem to find myself dreaming about my perfect guy. He fills my daydreams and small fantasies. Dreams of a small home, cuddling up in blankets, and sleepy goodnight kisses.
Despite these dreams, I know that ultimately God has a plan for me and my man. I won’t stress about it, but there’s no harm in dreaming… right? I am still working on myself and I want to continue to grow in my relationship with God and in other aspects of my life so I can one day become my husband’s “Proverbs 31” woman, who serves him and God in all that I do. There are so many things that come to mind when I think of my guy. Blond hair… maybe blue eyes (yes, that’s what I like), but there are so many other things that come to mind. It was hard to narrow it down to only five traits, but today I want to discuss what I, personally, look for in a guy.
1. Someone To Be MY Best Friend
One thing that I long for, even beyond what I have now is to have an intimacy with my partner that goes beyond just “lovers”. I want to be known. I want my husband/boyfriend to be my best friend, to know my favorite color and drink. I want someone that is able to see and love all aspects of me. My deepest secrets and my sharp edges. Not only this, but I also want someone that I can mess around with, that I can tell my horrible puns to and he’ll laugh at how dumb they sound. As with any long-term relationship, I want to find someone that I “click” with. Someone willing to put work into our relationship and maintain it, as I want to do. Someone that reminds me of love itself every day.
If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
-1 Corinthians 13:3-8
2. A Good Sense of Humor
One thing I value in a partner is being able to take life with a grain of salt. I want my husband to be able to joke with me. One thing I am told often and that I recognize myself is that I have a very “broken” sense of humor. My dad and grandpa made sure of that… corrupting my young brain with dad jokes and puns. I don’t mind it though! I need someone that will make me laugh when I really don’t want to and make me feel better. I’m sure he will be shocked when he meets me though… I laugh at the stupidest things. Dad jokes? Check. Horrible puns? Check. Cheesy pick-up lines? Oh boy, check! My partner, whoever he may be, should be someone that can make me laugh and someone I will be able to laugh with.
3. Passionate in All Aspects of Life
I am a very passionate person. In all aspects of life, I like to think. Sometimes my parents will call it me just being a “drama queen” but I resent that!
I have a passion for books and characters. I will cry and beam on behalf of all of these characters I have gotten to know so well. I have a passion for what I do. In my music and writing, I try my best to put passion into it. I have a passion for the Lord (that I am still growing in). Even with my schoolwork, my passion for what I want to be when I grow up motivates me.
That is exactly why I need a husband/boyfriend that will “match my energy”. I want to support him through whatever his passions are, but I will also want him to support me. He should be passionate about something! If one does not have a passion for anything… what is the point of putting so much work into something? One of my favorite things in the world is when I get the rare opportunity to sit down and listen to someone talk about something they are passionate about. The way their eyes light up and the way they smile from ear to ear never ceases to amaze me. Whether the topic is dragons, waterfalls, or video games! I love it.
Also, a partner with a passionate love? For God, me, and other people? I couldn’t ask for anything more in life.
4. A Man of God
I once heard the saying, “There is a difference between a Christian boy and a Man of God.” I completely agree with that statement. A Christian boy may have a tattoo of a Bible verse or wear a cross around his neck, but a Man of God is different. He is a man that strives to be more like Jesus every day, to have a closer relationship with him. He is a man that lives through God and strives to serve in whatever he does. I do not want a Christian boy, I want a Man of God. I need someone that will push me every day to grow in my faith and will challenge me to be the best version of myself. Now, I believe God will put this man in my path when I am ready. I trust that he has a plan for me, better than I can imagine.
5. Kindness
The last I want to mention is kindness. Now, I think with all of the other ones, this is kind of a given, but I still felt the need to talk about it. Kindness and love are central aspects of life, even. To have a kind husband, not only to me but to others, is important. I want him to have compassion for other people, as I hope I have.
In the end, I know that God has a plan for my life. For now, all I can do is daydream, read romance novels, and watch cheesy Hallmark movies. However, I know someday there will be someone that will love me as I will love them, with all the flaws and rough edges intact.
Until Next Time,
Peace Out Lovers!